|Gabriella from Bespoke Tantric|
A lot of people go into tantric massages from agencies like Bespoke Tantric with the idea that they are going to be able to have sex for hours and that they’re going to be rock hard (for men) the entire time. While it’s true that a tantric massage has the ability to help you last longer in bed and to keep an erection longer it is important to understand that through tantric massages the most important thing you learn is exactly what constitutes as sex (as far as Tantra is concerned anyway).
One thing that needs to be made clear is that you probably can’t keep an erection for hours without artificial chemicals in your system. You can keep it for a long time, yes and you can keep it for longer than you might have expected before the massage but this doesn’t mean you’ll be walking around with an erection 24/7. In fact the whole point of tantric massages is to show you that sex doesn’t mean putting your penis in a vagina. Sex is an experience where two people come together to worship each other and, like in tantric massages, there doesn’t need to be any penetration going on. In fact the only real penetration you need for tantric sex is that of your minds coming together and you two having a great time.
Does this mean you’re having sex with your tantric masseuse? No. Your tantric masseuse and you are having a tantric massage because even though she is worshiping your body you are not doing the same for her. She is there as a guide for you, not as a partner. The important thing to take away from it is that no matter how long penetration happens for (if it happens at all) with a sexual partner that all that comes before that and even what comes after is the ‘sexual experience’ not just the couple of minutes your bodies come together in the end. So while you might be involved in sexual intercourse for hours your actual penetration time will only be a third of that, maybe, if even.